Girl child and sexual abuse

I was busy with my house chores today and then this thought came to mind and I decided to write about it. The rate at which little girls are being exposed to sexual abuse is becoming very alarming and that is due to the kind of exposure some parents allow. Lots of ladies out there always begin their childhood stories with painful memories of being abused either by family members or outsiders. And so i decided to drop a few tips to help safe guard our female children.

I for one do not succumb to the idea of sending a young child to spend holiday with someone when you aren't there. A child you still have to tell 'shout and run away if someone touches you anyhow' or who doesn't yet understand the fact that when silly advances are being at her she needs to leave that vicinity, isn't qualified to go stay with someone when you as the parent isn't there.

Also, this idea of sending a child to go get you something outside wearing either mini-skirts or knicker that exposes the laps of the child to the public or even singlets simply because she is a small child or as we claim"she doesn't have anything yet" is very wrong. It sends the wrong signal to the men out there and one day they would drag her to a corner and get her abused and then the painful story begins. A child should be properly dressed when ever she is going outside the house, at least to cover sensitive parts of her body. 

We also have scenarios where someone comes to the house, probably to visit and then sees your child, carries her and then starts giving her silly pecks all in the name of play and you're there. What! (you dare not try that near my child). You come to visit and each time you come you place her on you lap, wait! Are you her father? Even an uncle isn't permitted.

Lastly, collecting unnecessary gifts for your children. Wait fess, I didn't say you shouldn't collect gifts given to your children. But biscuit today, viju tomorrow, next is chocolate, then ice-cream is too much. Check out when its becoming too much because the person giving knows his intention is to secure a place in your heart so you don't suspect anything.

These and many others that we know will help protect our female children.

RISING AGAINST ODDS

One of the most difficult challenges faced by man is the ability to face circumstances of life. Since man is generally timid and fearful, it takes courage and strength for one to be able to rise against life's challenges. Life is a mystery, and its mysteries are meant to be understood only by clever minds who must be strong and unmoved by life's experiences. Right from my childhood days I've seem people pass through challenges and I've even passed through some, but through it all I've come to understand that for you to be able to rise against odds of life, you must know your challenges, understand them and be determined to face them headlong. For instance , if your on a journey and your vehicle suddenly breaks down, you have to: 
1. Accept the fact that your car has broken down and you can't move unless you fix it.
 2. Know the sort of fault it has.
 3. Look out for a way to fix it in order to keep it moving. 
Rising against the odds comes with determination as its keyword. 
Hence,only a determined mind will be able to rise above challenges. As a little child, while growing up i had always known challenges to be poverty,  the death of a person or sudden business collapse. But later on , I got to discover that this  challenges could be; failure of an exam, or physical challenge, even low self-esteem. We've had cases of people who suddenly begin to feel out of place in the society because they don't possess some kind of qualities. But being determined to succeed in the midst of challenges is the nudge that opens the door to success.
 In most cases, we expect the positive part of life while we are never prepared for the negative side. Sadly, when it comes, we fall hopelessly since we are unprepared for the challenges ahead. Some persons even commit suicide or develop a chronic health situation.
Life comes and goes. Make each minute of your life count, even in the midst of challenges, be determined to rise against the odds. Always be positively minded. 
In conclusion, 
Rising against the odds of life entails;
 1. preparation for the negative parts of life( nobody prays for it to come, but subconsciously be ready for challenges). 
2. Be determined to succeed in the midst of challenges.
 3. Have the attitude of moving forward.
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